Who’s coming to my wedding?January 7, 2019
Wedding customs around the world vary. In Tanzania, weddings can last a whole week, and that costs a lot of money. They have close relationships with extended family though, and weddings are considered a communal affair. There are multiple ceremonies, and each one is as elaborate as a western wedding. There’s a dowry ceremony at the bride’s home, a kitchen party (which is a type of bridal shower), a send-off to give away the bride, the nuptials themselves, and a wedding reception.
In each of these events, there are bridesmaids, groomsmen, and formal wear. So the bride (and her maids) need four or five ‘wedding dresses’ each. The bride’s family covers the cost of the kitchen party and send-off, while the groom’s family pays for the wedding and reception. To cover these expenses, the invite for each ceremony (because they all have separate invites) includes a recommended (minimum) donation at the bottom. If you don’t donate, you don’t attend. The requested amount could range from $50 to $5,000 depending on the couple.
The western approach isn’t quite as clear-cut. Family and friends may offer to help, but it’s not mandatory. So, figure out how much you can spend on the wedding, then deduct the cost of your bridal dresses in Sydney. Come to our Bridal Secrets showroom and look around. Our selection ranges from Rebecca Ingram’s Erica Anne with its pockets and A-line silhouette, to the dramatic diva that is Maggie Sotero’s Adalee. And right now, you can get a $300 voucher for accessories.
Once that’s out of the way, estimate your price per head, then see how many guests you can afford to feed. Now that you have a number decide how to split them. Halfsies is best, because your groom may not care who comes and who doesn’t, but the (other) women in his life definitely care. If you’re both brides, it gets even more complex. For the sake of sanity, give priority to immediate family. Parents and siblings first, along with their spouses and kids.
Oldest friends first
The second tier is for people who have known you the longest – but only if they’re still active in your life. No need to invite the nursery school playmate you bumped into last week. And your friend circle gets priority over your boss and colleagues unless you’re sure the boss will give you a raise as a wedding present, in which case, bump those friends off the list!
Also, as hard as it may be to navigate remember that this is your wedding, so your own friends should have more slots than your parents’ friends. If you have to choose between your fitness buddy and your mum’s second cousin, your spin-class-pal gets dibs. Once the list is done, follow up with a call or text to confirm who’s actually coming, because nobody ever RSVPs.
Call Bridal Secrets today on 02 9635 3311. We’ll worry about your dress while you worry about your guest list.